Yesterday, I shared with you Ken Sande's "7 A's of Confession." Confession is a part of resolving conflict - it is owning and dealing with the what we contributed to the problem.
Confession is one part of what Ken Sande calls the "Four G's of Resolving Conflict." Here they are:
1) Glorify God - I Corinthians 10:31 "So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God." How can you glorify God in this conflict? What is the difference between how you handle this and how a good atheist would handle this? How can your attitude and actions point those involved and those who observe to Jesus Christ?
2) Get the log out of your own eye. Matthew 7:5 "First take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will clearly see to remove the speck from your brother's eye." What are/have you contributed to the situation that needs to be confessed and dealt with before trying to confront or correct a brother?
3) Gently restore - Galatians 6:1 "Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. Watch yourself or you also may be tempted." To gently restore refers to mending fishing nets or re-setting a fractured bone - it is done carefully, gently, sensitively, causing as little pain as possible.
4) Go and be reconciled - Matthew 5:24 "Leave your gift there in front of the altar. First, go and be reconciled to your grother; then come and offer your gift." The priority of taking care of business quickly is paramount - even before you can worship. Don't procrastinate - do it now!
Trusting Him, the Peacemaker, to bring growth and harmony out of the conflicts we will face today ~ Bob