Christian Fatigue Syndrome. Ministry Burnout. Exhaustion at every level of our beings. From being deeply present. Serving non-stop. Giving endlessly. Pouring out ... til there's nothing left except the dregs at the bottom of the well.
Result?
A sense of numbness slowly creeps into body, mind, and soul. Joy, passion, zeal, and purpose fade to a distant memory.
In the Volume 18, No. 1 issue of Christian Counseling Today Magazine, counselor and consultant Eric Scalise observes, "Caregivers and ministry leaders are not only susceptible to increased levels of stress ... when combined with a call to love and serve others, the result is what is commonly referred to as compassion fatigue. Compassion fatigue can be understood as a comprehensive exhaustion that takes place over time when one is constantly in the 'giving' position and, as a result, loses his/her ability and motivation to experience joy, satisfaction, or feel and care for others.
It is sometimes referred to as secondary or vicarious traumatic stress associated with the emotional residue related to the cause of caring. The traumatic event or crisis did not happen to you directly, but you were close enough to those it did impact that its detrimental effects can still have a causal outcome."
Pastor. Ministry Leader. People Helper. Counselor.
If you're emotionally/physically/mentally/spiritually depleted, you KNOW you've got to get out of that terrifying place. These guidelines may be helpful as you begin to make choices that will re-fill your well:
- CLARIFY YOUR CALL
Enthusiastic, energetic service can sometimes morph into a 24/7 deal where we mistakenly believe that we must be all things to all people at all times. If that "messiah complex" has crept in, reflect on your initial calling and review your current job description. Chances are you are going way over and above the demands of duty.
- ESTABLISH BOUNDARIES
Boundryless people helpers seem unable to say "no." Do we fear being unloved or unappreciated? Have we become people pleasers? Do we fear losing our position or sense of identity? Begin to understand what drives and motivates you. Fear is a harsh task-master.
- FIND A SUPPORT TEAM
Healthy people helpers pro-actively build a supportive team around them - a regularly scheduled gathering of other like-minded souls. God can use that in-person, over the phone, or online group as a huge lifeline in our lives. We need to be in community with others who will be present for us as we debrief, ask us the difficult questions, share helpful resources, laugh and cry with us, and offer much-needed prayer support.
- EMBRACE YOUR FAMILY & FRIENDS
Begin to re-create focused time with those you love. Chances are they've been missing you.
- CUT WAY BACK ON YOUR USE OF TECHNOLOGY
Our society has created a culture where we are always on, always available. For many, there has become an obsessive compulsiveness to our use of screens. There is no rest for our minds, leaving us with no space just to be still. It's time to recognize if this has become a problem.
- TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY
Recognize the signs of stress in your body. See the doctor for a complete checkup. Take some vitamins. Cut way back on grazing on that convenient junk food and begin to drink 6-8 glasses of water a day. Get some additional sleep. Get outdoors and begin to walk or bike or run.
- TEND TO YOUR SOUL
Times of silence and solitude with God need to become prioritized appointments on our calendars. The Lover of our souls is the One who's promised to fully restore us {Psalm 23}, and equips us to make decisions that will enable us to "make it our goal to please Him" {2 Corinthians 5:9}.
Running the marathon with you ~
Linda
