What's It Like Being Married To You?

One of my favorite questions to ask clients is, "What's it like being married to you?"

From time to time, we all need to consider some hard questions about the relationship we have with our spouses. Questions that, if we were to be brutally honest with ourselves, we'd rather not consider. But these are the inquiries that spark those much-needed, in depth conversations that we keep shoving aside. First of all, a dialogue within our own souls with the One who knows us most intimately. And then some heart to heart talks with the one we said we'd love "in sickness and in health, til death do us part."

This isn't something that will be done in 10 minutes. It takes energy to handle what's true about ourselves. So we push it aside for another time. Ah ... the tyranny of the urgent wins again.

It's so easy to look at the one we married and see lots of things that need fixing. But are we courageous enough to take the time and energy to look deep inside our own souls? And be willing to admit there's some work that needs to be done?

Consider carving out the time to take this evaluation. These are questions worth pondering. And these are dialogues worth indulging in.

Linda

"Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me and lead me in the way everlasting"

- Psalm 139:23-24.