Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Heartache Knows No Marital Status

Heartache knows no marital status.

(in)courage recently brought this truth into stark reality.  When a Comment Breaks Your Heart spoke directly to the single woman's pain of "unfulfilled dreams and life plans."  What You're Trying to Tell Him When You're Angry dealt with the anxiety, fear, and anger that can plague a marriage.

But the thing that hit me were the comments on both posts.  691 at last count.  Readers sharing story after story of their broken dreams and searing disappointments.  Seemingly endless struggles that had impacted their faith to the core.  Pain and disappointment beyond measure.

Heartache knows no marital status.

So next time the grass looks oh so green in your neighbor's yard, and you're tempted to want what they've got, take a breath.  Chances are that they are wrestling with their own stuff.  It might be different than yours.  But be sure that their pain can cut just as deep.

The truth is that in the end, single or married, the only place where we'll ultimately find all we long for and all we crave is in the arms of the Lover of our souls.  No human being will fill that endless void that yawns so deeply within the depths of who we are.  And oh how disillusioned and bitter we become if we continue to demand that someone beside Jesus meet the deepest longings of our hearts.

"Come to Me, all you who are weary and burdened,
and I will give you rest ..."
- Matthew 11:28.

Embraced by Him ~

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  1. Great post, Linda! Thanks for linking up.
    Blessings to you,

  2. Truth is that the grass is NOT always greener on the other side of the fence ...

    When they're unsatisfied and disillusioned, many singles think married couples have it all ... and the same is true for many of the married couples I talk with.

    How we fertilize and nurture and grow and "bloom where we're planted" ends up being the big question!

    Thanks for stopping by, Jolene.

  3. This is so true, Linda. Whether married or single, we will experience trials and sorrows. Bless you, Gail

  4. It's an easy trap to fall into--thinking, "if I just had ... I would be fulfilled." This reminds me of the saying, "There's nothing more lonely than feeling alone in a marriage." Thanks so much, Linda, for highlighting these articles. I'll have to check them out. Sounds like some great insights and discussion. And thank you for being such a supportive bloggy friend! Hugs to you!

  5. Being content with where God has us can be very hard to feel. We always want what we don't have and God alone knows what we shouldn't have, but we fail to recognize that ;-)

    The Tenth Commandment is something we work on in our home. Whenever the kids say "I wish I had...", we discuss what we would do with that 'thing'. I am hoping to show them that God has them exactly where He wants them with exactly what He wants them to have.

  6. Yes, those deepest needs of our hearts are the same, no matter what our marital status. Thanks for jumping into the conversation today, dear online friends!


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