Monday, November 14, 2011

Hauling Our Stuff Around

Over the years, I've spent countless hours in conversation with women.  We often end up talking about all the stuff they're hauling around.  And by stuff I don't mean excess purchases and belongings, although issues of accumulation do come up from time to time. 

I mean deep pain.  Heart-rending woundedness.  An ongoing, intense agony that's taken on a life of its own, impacting their emotional well being.  Their physical health.  Their spiritual life.  Trauma that happened eons ago has come to define their identity.

Instead of who they are in Christ. 

And instead of Jesus being on the throne, those who've abused or neglected or wounded them along the way reside there.  After all, they're the ones calling the shots, setting the agenda, messing with their emotions, running their lives. 

The ones who have perpetrated so much damage are fully ensconced in the driver's seat.  They have been given permission to take control.  And from that vantage point, they have power that no human being ought to have.

Over many hours, we gently handle the hurt, frustration, fear, and disrespect that's come to define their lives, that's kept them from being healthy and strong and vibrant.  We wade through the bitterness that sloshes around their souls like bad sewage.  We wrestle with the whole idea of forgiveness and what it looks like and what it might mean for their physical and emotional and spiritual health.  And how hard it is to venture down that path.  We begin to examine what setting up healthy boundaries look like.  And begin to grieve the longed for reconciliation that may never take place.

These are courageous women who are much stronger than they realize.  And slowly but surely the truth dawns on them.  Yes, they really can do all things through Christ
who strengthens them {Philippians 4:13}.

I love this clip from Rob Bell's LUGGAGE video.    As he says so well, "I don't want what somebody else did to me to determine what my life is going to be like."

So if you've been hauling some kind of luggage around and you're just about weary of the whole thing, don't rush off.  This clip is for you ...

"Jesus said, 'Come to Me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens,
and I will give you rest'" - Matthew 11:28 {NLT}.


Welcome to the table, friend!

This is where we gather and hang out. I'd love for you to pull up a chair and jump right into the conversation. Or simply say 'hello.'

l'll be dropping in to visit you sometime soon ...


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