tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-684802537865104750.post4237741792934518010..comments2023-10-03T20:27:10.322-04:00Comments on CREEKSIDE MINISTRIES: 31 Days of Awesome Relationships : : Day 9 : : A Pastor's Wife Shares Her HeartacheLinda Stollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15568264417855502332noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-684802537865104750.post-10829890282116897192012-10-10T18:37:50.757-04:002012-10-10T18:37:50.757-04:00Thanks, dear pastor's wife, for reminding us o...Thanks, dear pastor's wife, for reminding us of what we need to hear. That you and your husband and your children are human. And that your needs and feelings are as real and valid as anyone else's.<br /><br />May God bring good people into your life to bless and nurture and encourage your spirits.<br /><br />Thank you, Christie!Lindanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-684802537865104750.post-53335090686842898842012-10-10T15:08:20.045-04:002012-10-10T15:08:20.045-04:00I can understand the hurt here. Although we'v...I can understand the hurt here. Although we've been soooo blessed by our church family, I can see how this could happen. Being the pastor (and his wife and family) sometimes comes at the cost of ministering while not being ministered to. The lay people often don't understand that we are human, too! The fact that we need relationship and understanding when our lives fall apart is so hard to convey! Being the super-human pastor is tiring!<br /><br />Thanks for sharing this! I found you through Women Living Well!<br /><br />Christie<br />http://satisfactionthroughchrist.blogspot.comAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15955682726148579441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-684802537865104750.post-27991300160271144172012-10-10T13:45:49.415-04:002012-10-10T13:45:49.415-04:00Yes, Beth! Truth be told, who hasn't had seas...Yes, Beth! Truth be told, who hasn't had seasons of messy marriages, messy ministry, messy parenting ...<br /><br />God is gracious! If we let Him carry us, He does so! And allows us to learn huge lessons, give and receive forgiveness, and move ahead to do something besides sit around and wish things had been different.<br /><br />Like extend grace and mercy and wisdom to others.<br /><br />Always love when you drop by, Beth! Lindanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-684802537865104750.post-55033444216687994652012-10-10T12:16:24.929-04:002012-10-10T12:16:24.929-04:00I can so relate to this young woman's situatio...I can so relate to this young woman's situation and feelings. My husband and I had what I call "messy ministry years" as well as messy marriage years. People don't realize just how gut-wrenchingly hard it is to be in the ministry at times. People hold you to a higher standard and young friends are sometimes the worst at extending grace when failures come to light. (Only because they haven't had enough life experience) But I love your advice and will commit to praying for this young pastor's wife. My heart certainly breaks for her, and I'm thankful, Linda, that you've given her great words of wisdom to make a new start!Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13156048755652103073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-684802537865104750.post-70815343106514675932012-10-09T22:04:46.230-04:002012-10-09T22:04:46.230-04:00Yes, Marilyn, oh yes ...
May your healing continu...Yes, Marilyn, oh yes ...<br /><br />May your healing continue, may you find that the positive memories continue to overtake the negative experiences that have brought you such pain.<br /><br />Someday, in that place where there's no more pain and sorrow, they'll be knocking each other over, trying to get to you to say 'thanks' ...<br /><br />;-)Lindanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-684802537865104750.post-18204000470096181962012-10-09T21:40:53.809-04:002012-10-09T21:40:53.809-04:00I read your blog today and it reminded me of many ...I read your blog today and it reminded me of many difficult times I experienced as a pastor's wife. While I wanted to sit down immediately and comment on it, I decided not to. As usual, God's timing is perfect. A little while later, as I was checking my email, I received one from a woman from our last church. She was thanking me for attending her mother's funeral 15 years ago. Today is the 15th anniversary of her mother's death and what she remembered is that we drove out of state to be there and supported her through a difficult time in her life. We all influence people every day. I pray that these positive memories come to mind more than the difficult ones.<br /><br />MarilynMarilynnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-684802537865104750.post-45031826720717051932012-10-09T21:08:52.093-04:002012-10-09T21:08:52.093-04:00I hear your pain, disappointment, and disillusionm...I hear your pain, disappointment, and disillusionment. You have put some very important observations on the table. And you are not alone.<br /><br />I encourage you to keep talking with God about these very real concerns, and see if you can sense His direction for the future.<br /><br />May He bring good, Christ-like people into your life ...<br /><br />I so appreciate you sharing with us this evening.Lindanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-684802537865104750.post-65019823927098418342012-10-09T20:58:45.708-04:002012-10-09T20:58:45.708-04:00Sometimes it seems like the hurts we experience at...Sometimes it seems like the hurts we experience at church wound more than the hurts experienced in other areas of our life. Why is this? Maybe because church is the last place we expect to be hurt? Maybe because we've allowed ourselves to become vulnerable to these people, and when they don't treat us well, it makes us wonder why we opened up in the first place? I, too, am at a very difficult place with the congregation at my church (I've attended there for 15 years). My family and I are hardly ever invited to others' homes, though we've entertained many in our home. I see Facebook pictures of others in my "circle" enjoying parties and weddings that I expected to be invited to...but wasn't. I am ready to drop out of church. It hurts too much.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com