Saturday, October 19, 2013

People 101 : : Day 19 : : Fearful Parents

We think we're hiding our pain so well, artfully concealed behind those carefully constructed masks. But, truth be told, we're kidding ourselves if we think that this masquerade camouflages all our baggage. And that those anxieties and fears that threaten to overwhelm don't impact those around us.
 
* circa early 1960s *
Especially the children.

Fear is a harsh taskmaster, a lousy decision making guide, an endless energy drainer, an overwhelming anxiety fuel-er. It kills creativity, sabotages our best efforts, and works overtime to drown out the vibrant potential of the fruit of the Spirit.

My 'transitional woman' friend Elizabeth shared her story recently. And it is worth retelling. Because I know she's not the only one ...

'My mom was a worrying, fearful person.  She never took risks.  Wouldn't try anything new.  Didn't want to go any place she'd never been before (well, maybe a new restaurant or shopping mall).  If she was visiting family, she insisted on returning home within an hour or two after arriving.  Because of her fear of unfamiliar situations, she didn't come to my ... finish reading'


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6 comments:

  1. So very true, this post. Thank you, Linda.

    As if fear doesn't do enough damage in the individual lives of the fearful. It then comes crashing down on the ones who relate to them. As you say, "Especially the children." Thank you for these observations and also for the link to Elizabeth's story, a powerful illustration.

    I think the child-parent dynamic, tainted by fear, was weighing on my heart when I wrote "Sentinels of Care" yesterday. It's hard to accept, let alone see, that those who care for us are often suffering, too: http://inthehandsofthehealer.blogspot.com/2013/10/day-18-sentinels-of-care.html

    With thanksgiving for the forgiveness, understanding, and compassion that He plants in hurting hearts...

    ~HBHW

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    1. I appreciate you talking about the child-parent dynamic this evening, dear reader. The fear can flow both ways, can't it, paralyzing, suffocating, rendering a whole family unit helpless and hopeless. Thank God He can break through, by His Spirit ... and love, joy, peace, patience, gentleness, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, and self-control can be ours and lead us out of those darkest of places.

      Thank you for your thoughts, your writing, HBHW. Readers - be sure to check out the post that she has shared with us, ok?

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  2. Thank you for this Linda. I must constantly fight against fear, especially as I've gotten older. It's a strange thing. Again, thank you for this post. And as always, thank you for being so kind and considerate and faithful to the promptings of the Lord. Blessings to you dear friend.

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    1. I love that you've come by, my online friend! The whole fear thing? I think you are in good company since so many of us have to wade through this, sometimes more than others. I love that those godly women who visited the tomb of Jesus were afraid ... YET filled with joy!

      I'm thankful that this part of the story was shared with us ... God knew we would need to hear it, over and over.

      Have a truly delightful Sabbath, Dina!

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  3. Thank you for sharing this, Linda! I definitely resonate with this post.

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    1. Yes, Dar, I'm hearing you well ... and I'm guessing that many of our readers have experienced this with their parents. It can be a hard thing to admit ... first, that this is what REALLY went on, and second, how great the impact truly was ...

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