Wednesday, August 19, 2009

8 "Anger Busters" for Kids

Yes, we've all seen those little cherubs. They stamp their tiny feet. Run the other way when their parent calls. Push and shove their siblings. Yell disrespectfully. Hurl toys. At age 2. Or age 12.

{And no, they aren't always someone else's kids!}

Click here for some basic anger busting strategies from Focus on the Family. And do check out the other links listed for some perspective on anger issues for kids of all ages. Good tools for parents, grandparents, teachers, caregivers!

1. Model anger management.
{I think this is huge! It's hard for a child to learn to control himself when the adult is out of control.)

2. Show respect.
{As your little ones begin to learn how to talk, teach them to respond to you respectfully. It's now or never on this one.}

3. Give them words to express their anger.
{And show them what it looks like to speak calmly, even when upset.}

4. Identify with their pain.
{Just like adults, kids want someone to listen well. And it often doesn't take more than a minute.}

5. Set positive limits.
{Our kids crave parameters. Show me an adult with no boundaries and I'll show you a child who had few limits.}

6. Redirect energy bursts.
{That boundless energy's gotta go somewhere. Turn negative energy into a force for good!}

7. Avoid power struggles.
{Someone always ends up losing. And we're looking for a win-win situation each time.}

8. Provide a cooling off period.
{For you. For your child.}

The most powerful parenting tool is modeling a healthy response to life's challenges. From the moment you open one bleary eye in the morning til you wearily close their door at night. And that kind of energy can only come from the One who gives you "everything you need for life and godliness."

"Place these words on your hearts. Get them deep inside you. Tie them on your hands and foreheads as a reminder. Teach them to your children. Talk about them wherever you are, sitting at home or walking in the street; talk about them from the time you get up in the morning until you fall into bed at night."
- Deuteronomy 11:18-19 (The Message).

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