Monday, May 25, 2009

These Scars Are Hidden

Emotional abuse. It's as real and damaging as physical abuse. But unlike physical abuse, these scars can't be seen. But they are there. Subtle, or not so, this abuse slowly, but surely, erodes the sense of self - worth, esteem, value, confidence ... all that God has given us that defines who we are deep inside.

In her excellent article, Lubna Somjee, Ph.D. discusses the forms of this insidious betrayal of trust:

Emotional blackmail

Denying or minimizing

Verbal abuse

Unrealistic expectations



In addition, the journey towards healing include these steps:

- Acknowledging that someone who was supposed to nurture you has instead caused you harm

- Recognizing how trust has been violated and how boundaries have been eroded

- Grieving what should have been

- Forgiving the unforgiveable

- Setting up boundaries against future abuse

- Learning to reclaim who God has designed you to be

- Developing a new sense of freedom and confidence in Christ

There is hope. There is healing.

"Where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom"
- 2 Corinthians 3:17.


  1. I can relate to this article. Unfortunately, I still struggle with using the negative language others used upon me as I belittle myself. My source of strength comes from God and my counselor. Thank You,Linda!

  2. Psalm 139:17 tells us that God's thoughts toward you are precious and innumberable! Let's believe His Word and continue to refute those old "tapes" that the enemy would use to keep you stuck.

    Cheering you on ~


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